Why do I self-sabotage my career?
James Williams
Updated on April 02, 2026
One of the key reasons people self-sabotage is a lack of self-esteem . This can have many different causes, but the effects are the same: feelings of worthlessness, the belief that you don’t deserve success, and even self-hatred. Some people self-sabotage because it makes them feel in control of their situations.
What causes self sabotaging behavior?
There are many reasons why someone may choose self sabotaging behavior, but many stem from a lack of belief in oneself. Psychology Today provides good insight into why and how we self-sabotage. Substance abuse, turning to food, or procrastination can all be ways in which we self-sabotage.
How do you help someone who is self sabotaging?
The best method for helping someone who is self-sabotaging is to point out that no matter what you say, they always find excuses, or find things wrong. But if they truly want to address these destructive behaviors you’ll be there for them by telling them the truth and staying genuine to who you really are.
What is self sabotaging behavior?
Self-sabotage refers to behaviors or thought patterns that hold you back and prevent you from doing what you want to do.
How do I stop self-sabotaging my career?
How To Stop Sabotaging Your Career
- Don’t let fear get in the way.
- Don’t avoid going outside your comfort zone.
- Don’t compare yourself to others.
- Do focus on your strengths.
- Do recognize self-sabotaging behavior.
- Do be open to feedback.
How do I know if I’m self-sabotaging?
One of the hallmarks of self-sabotage and fear of intimacy is the inability to talk about your feelings and your problems. You avoid talking about these things because talking means feeling, and you want to avoid feeling these things at all costs.
How do you tell if you are self sabotaging?
What is an example of self-sabotage?
Self-sabotage is when you undermine your own goals and values. In other words, you acknowledge that there’s something out there you genuinely want and believe is good for you (e.g. keeping off those 20 pounds you just lost), but then you do things that directly conflict with that goal (e.g. late-night fast-food runs).
How do you know if you are self-sabotaging?
What are examples of self-destructive behaviors?
Some self-destructive behavior is more obvious, such as:
- attempting suicide.
- binge eating.
- compulsive activities like gambling, gaming, or shopping.
- impulsive and risky sexual behavior.
- overusing alcohol and drugs.
- self-injury, such as cutting, hair pulling, burning.