How do you talk to an employee about inappropriate comments?
Michael Gray
Updated on April 05, 2026
Here’s how to have a conversation that will help everyone at the office feel more at ease.
- Get in the right headspace. Before you confront the offender, make sure you’re in a mental state where you can speak calmly.
- State the facts.
- Explain the impact of their joke.
- Ask a question.
- Gauge if you need to change tactics.
How do you deal with inappropriate comments?
5 ways to respond to offensive comments
- Be direct. Speaking up doesn’t always mean taking a dramatic stand.
- Change the subject. Casually redirecting the conversation can stop offensive language in its tracks.
- Talk about it later.
- Ask someone else for help.
- Take indirect action.
What is inappropriate to talk about at work?
Do not disparage someone you work with, spread gossip or rumors or even talk about his or her performance in a negative light. No one likes mean girls at work. Do not compare yourself to your coworkers. The only thing you should discuss about coworkers are compliments and expressions of appreciation.
When do you need to include performance comments?
Any factor rated poor or needs improvement MUST have performance comments. For any factor, performance comments should support the rating given. If there have been counseling sessions, letters of commendation or reprimand, or unofficial performance reviews within the rating period, the supervisor should keep documentation on file …
What kind of comments do you make on a report?
Takes messages, writes correspondence, deals with customers and coworkers with sufficient attention to detail. Reports are accurate and well written using proper grammar and punctuation. Students and coworkers feel comfortable coming to this employee with questions and comments.
What do your co-workers say about your performance?
Error rate is acceptable, and all work is completed timely. Forms and required paperwork are completed on time with minimal errors. Managers and co-workers have commented on high levels of accuracy and work productivity. Takes pride in work and strives to improve work performance.